Sorry its long but please read, thanks (this happened earlier today)
Im a 17 year old lad and live with my mum and step dad, i am hurt from the fact i never had a close relationship with my real father as i got older and have been more so in the last few months as i got older. This year i have become close with my step dad and have started going on nights out with him. Iv lived with him from the age of 8 so he has brought me up and is pretty much like my father. I have found comfort in being closer to him in the past year because of how increasingly rejected i felt from my real dad.
My mum went away with her friends on a spa weekend for her friends birthday. I told my step dad that i was staying at my fathers that night. My dad picked me and my brother up from my brothers flat and i went to my house to get some clothes and my laptop (this was an hour and a half later). When i got to my house there was a car id never seen before parked outside with my step dads car behind it which meant he had parked after the car. I tried to unlock the door but the key was left in the other side. I then rang him and he rejected my phone call and then turned his phone off. I know him well and how he reacts to things and i know this would have been in panic as i was banging on the door hard.
I went in as the back door was left open and went into my bedroom on the second floor to get my stuff (my step dads and mums room is on the third floor). I didn’t bother shouting him or going upstairs it was complete silent and i knew he was avoiding me as he will always shout downstairs when i come in my house to see it was me. He is the type of person that when he is caught out gets scared, panics and freezes with fear, I’ve seen it happen before when he gets caught with small things like white lies.
I got im my dads car and didn’t say anything and completely acted as if nothing had happened as i didn’t want anyone involved at the time. I was gutted, completely shocked and never EVER thought that this would happen. My mum was in a really happy relationship before when i was about 6/7 which ended with her boyfriend having an affair and she had a hard time for a couple of years as she was really gutted and she kept taking him back and he kept having an affair. She swore she would never give a man a second chance again.
That night he rang me twice which was unusual as he never returns missed calls from me, i know he would use an excuse saying his phone was off ETC and maybe he was not home (which he clearly was). I just turned my phone off like he did to me earlier. I do believe i am right as i trust my instinct and i know my step dad well.
Im confused, gutted, angry. I feel like i have lost all love and respect for him and the way i look up to him, i thought he was better than that. I really didnt know what to do as my mum is really happy at the moment more than she has ever been. If she found out he cheated on her or had an affair she would be gutted and maybe never get back with him even though they share their lives and have a business together. On the other hand i could believe him and pretend it never happened. However i know deep down that i wouldn’t put it passed him as there has been reason to suspect him in the past but my mum trusts him too much and so do i. I know he had affairs in his first marriage but didn’t think anything of it because he was really unhappily married and that was years ago.
However i do know that all his brothers have affairs frequently and so did his dad years ago.
I feel really hurt and betrayed myself as i really loved and trusted him recently and spent a lot of time with him. I feel like i have just lost that and closeness with a male role model is a hard thing to loose.
I really dont know what to do as i carnt prove anything, my mum will listen to me if i tell her but i know he will deny it and she will eventually take him back if he doesnt admit it (which he wont) or she has no proof. Now i think he has been doing this all these years. No matter what happens now i know how i feel and that i have no time for him now. This could cause lots of strain and stress when we all had a really happy life at home. Also i dont want to see my mum depressed and lonely like i did last time. She has just found out her aunty who she is really close to has cancer which could be terminal and this is making my mum upset and stressed. my mum out a bit.
What should i do? Ask someone for help? I carn’t live knowing this and staying quiet.. Or can i blackmail my stepdad into admitting it somehow? How shall i act when i see him tomorrow when i go home? Im confused stressed and dont know what to do. I still carnt believe this has happened. It would be extremely hard for my mum to leave him. It is also hurtful to know once someone is a cheat they are always a cheat. Please give me some advice, thanks
i think you are making a lot out of nothing
you did not see him having sex
you saw a car in the driveway
you have an active imagination
and
not only that ? that marriage is the marriage of your parents
you are the child
peace
****OPEN ME!!****GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED!!!
Few things are as special as a young Bride’s Wedding Day. ESSpa Kozmetika Organic Skin Care was able to help make Holly’s day beautiful and perfect and stress free for her family, mom
the max amount of money ive got is £1000, and my mum isnt keen on renting out anywhere because we live on a farm already so she says its pointless spending money on somewhere when weve already got the space to put a marquee or whatever… although i would rather have it somewhere ive already picked out the venue i would like but she’s not up for it.
Mother’s Day at the Spa.
Recent Comments